Dear anita

In your analogy of the bird flying into a closed window and repeating to do so to get entry despite the pain, not realizing it will never be able to force itself in, represents craving acceptance and validation for me. I keep trying to impress, and each time it feels like “this is it, I will make it this time” and yet it only leaves me hurt. I need to look for places and people that are open to me.

This made me think, why do we fear judgement – is it that our species was once in very small tribes and you needed everyone in the tribe to ensure your survival? The reason i think this could be the reason is it almost feels “life-threatening” when you notice someone looking down on you. Every little action of such a person feels like they are out to get you.

What is your relationship with other people’s opinions? Mine as I have said earlier feels like one of necessity – to survive.

Girija