Dear IpkRO9:

If I remember and understand correctly, your boyfriend wants your parents and your sister to know about your relationship, especially when you leave June next year for your PhD program. Your parents did not meet him yet. Your sister already disapproved of him as your boyfriend/ future husband and your parents are greatly influenced by your sister, as she seems to have taken the dominant position in the family.

Your boyfriend wants your sister to know of the relationship even if she doesn’t approve of it.

My question is: is your boyfriend’s intent to continue the relationship with you, progressing toward marriage contingent on your sister’s/ parents’ approval, or is he intending to continue the relationship with you without their approval?

– I will wait for your answer before I attempt to answer your question regarding your sister’s visit soon, telling her or not…

Also- did you express to him clearly that you need more time to date him, to get to know each other and that you are not ready to consider marriage at this point, if so, what was his response?

anita