Dear jessica:

I am looking forward to your answers to Jay’s excellent questions as those will help better understanding of your situation.

Without those answers I have one general point to make regarding a young woman expecting a man to baby her (“I immediately go into the mind set that he can and will look after me. Making me like his baby”): when you meet a man, he doesn’t look at you and sees a baby to be taken care of. He sees a woman, and if he finds you sexually attractive, he will be naturally motivated to have sex with you.

It is a mistake, as a woman, to expect a man to see her as a baby. His hormones, his neural and chemical reactions lead him to want to satisfy his sexual needs via use of the woman’s body.

anita