Dear Anita,

Thank you for replying to me.

You are right. My husband has a consistent history of not listening to me on many things. He has a tendency to disregard the consequences of many of his decisions on me. Most are minor things, some are not.

I am ok with the open marriage, though, but not ok with him getting involved with someone who has a negative history with me. In this context, although we have had a falling out, I still consider her as one of “my people”, so to speak. Maybe, in the future, our differences can be sorted out but his actions have created a much bigger divide.

I understand that there is a history contributing to my current anger. But I don’t know how to deal with it