Dear Dan:

I am glad your rage lessened over the years and hope it continues to lessen.

I read and re-read your posts on your two threads, since Feb 2014. Here are my suggestions:

1. When you found out that the mother of our son is expecting another child, I think it was about Oct last year, you told your son that you and him will shop for a gift for his new brother. Maybe you should follow up on that and together with your son shop for a gift, wrap it and give it to  his brother.

2. You tried many times to forgive your child’s mother, even told her that you did, gave her your forgiveness as a Christmas gift, but failed each time. Better you stop trying to forgive her. Instead, try to love more: when you feel anger at your child’s mother and/ or at the men in her life, past and present, shift your focus from anger to love- love for your son.

In your many posts I didn’t detect love/ tender affection and interactions with your son.

Again and again, when you feel angry at her/ men in her life, shift from anger to affection for your son.

3. You desired to punish your child’s mother for a long time, wanted her to  suffer and you succeeded. I have no doubt that she wishes she never met you.

Don’t try to inflict more suffering on the mother of your child. If his mother suffers (more), she will be distressed and therefore, not as good a mother as she would be calm.

Don’t make it more difficult on the mother of your child to.. be a good mother to your child.

anita