Dear Ly14:

As I see it now, from a quick glance at your situation, I would not label your situation an Rocd situation. I think that you are unsatisfied in your life as it is, dissatisfied, discontent. You don’t want the life you have, living from paycheck to paycheck. You want a different life.

I imagine that if you marry him and live from paycheck to paycheck year after year, having children and being even more stressed financially, that is not a good way for you to live, your anxiety will intensify, your distress increase and you will not be a good wife to him or a good mother to your children.

I need to get away from the computer for about 14 hours. Like I wrote, this is a quick glance at your situation from the little information I have. Please write your thoughts and feelings about what I posted here and add any information that may be relevant. I will read and reply to you when I am back

anita