Dear LianeGretch:

Your father verbally abused you when you lived with him and your mother allowed it.

Your father is currently abusing your brother and sister who live with him (“I witness him being very frustrated with my brother and sister who he verbally insults everyday!”). Your mother allows him too and defends him.

Your mother is excited about your baby, I suppose she wants to spend time with your baby/ growing child in her home sometimes, maybe even full time-

– it is a bad, bad idea because your father will abuse your child too, just like he abused you and is abusing your siblings. And your mother will allow it and defend your him.

Don’t put your baby in that situation!

Please consider adoption: your parents are a bad choice for taking care of your child and you and your boyfriend are quite a mess.

Go to an agency that will help you find a place for your baby, to be adopted. Do all you can do to see to it that the agency or service you use to find adoptive parents for your child is a reputable and ethical agency.

Think of this as well: you were abused by your father and you proceeded to abuse your boyfriend, simply because you can. It will be an even more terrible thing if you proceeded to abuse your own child, simply because your child is weak and dependent.

I will next be away from the computer for about 18 hours. Please take best care of yourself, do not abuse your boyfriend no matter how you feel, and find an adoption agency for your child.

* Let me know if you can think of other possible solutions that didn’t occur to me yet.

I hope to read from you when I return and will reply to you then.

anita