Dear Cali Chica:

Invest in team work with your husband, make it a win-win project, that is what love is about, that very win/win. When you don’t feel love for him, love him anyway by doing this team work, just as you did yesterday: “I learned about his day and didn’t consistently interject.. with my own mind chatter/ personal chatter/ nonsense chatter”.

Over time, you will see yourself as a loving person. This is what it means, being good, it means being a loving person. This is what you were at the beginning of your life, then exiled into the war zone of your mother, and now, the return to who  you were at the beginning.

When we are born to our mothers, we are born with a nature that has nothing to do with her, that loving nature- it predated our mothers and is independent of her, it evolved through many thousands of years, it is in the wagging of a dog’s tail, that loving nature.

anita