Dear Gregory,

It really sounds to me as though your wife is not ready to be a woman. She is still a child, even though she has a child herself. She does not want to accept the adult version of life. She is rebelling, just like a teenager, against fitting into a pattern. That is her problem, not yours. You cannot make her simply ‘grow up’ it’s something she has to decide to do herself. And that looks to be unlikely at any point in the near future.

Your list above is pretty comprehensive. At post 271945… Do you really want this woman in your life? So you want someone who cheats, lies and generally behaves as though she isn’t married? Someone who doesn’t even acknowledge that she has a child and adult responsibilities? Someone you say does not love you.

Is it simply a case that you can’t let go, even though your answer above is telling me you should. You have custody of your son, and you really need to make your son the No. 1 person in your life. Put your son first.

In your situation, I would get on with my own life. Look after yourself and your son. Get back to your training and qualify, so that you can make a good life for yourself and your son.

With best wishes,

Jay