It had only been a few months, but these were very intense, I think maybe it was too much too soon for him ( even though he was the driving force)

I wasn’t expecting to move in anytime in the near future and the right here and now was fantastic, it’s hard to get my head round it’s over on the ifs and maybes of the future ?

Yeah, it’s possible it was too intense for him or he may have realized that he didn’t really see it going anywhere, even with its intensity, or he may have gotten cold feet once you got into the serious discussions and he started thinking about life changes. It’s really hard to say.

The thing here is… no matter what, none of us know what anyone is going to do in the future. This may be it and you guys may be done or it’s possible he may decide he jumped the gun out of fear and ended things too soon. There’s really no way to know that, so to save yourself some stress, just do your best to not think about the what ifs (and I know that’s hard). I think the best way to do that is to practice mindfulness. When your mind drifts to the future and starts creating all sorts of scenarios that may or may not ever happen, shift your focus back to what is going on around you.

A couple other important questions, though….. how long had it been since his previous breakup (how long had he been single in between) and how many months did you date?