Dear laelithia:

I went over the five previous pages of this thread. I have a few questions for you and I hope you can answer them clearly, not at length, as short and clear as you can:

1. Did you ever try SSRIs for obsessive thinking/ OCD or any other psychiatric medications for OCD, if so, how long, what drugs and what was the results?

2. Did you attend psychotherapy, for how long, how long ago, and what happened there/ what helped, if anything?

3. You wrote earlier about your boyfriend: “He would need to stay in Switzerland for a bare minimum of 4 more years, and ideally, he would like to stay permanently… I would like to stay in Canada long term as I believe we would have a better quality of life (in Canada)”- is this still his and your  positions, or are you willing to leave Canada for good at this point? What is his position?

4. Do you think it will be a problem for you living in Switzerland with him while “his mother is extremely attached (and somewhat possessive) to him?

5. If you move to Switzerland, will you be able to make your  own money (I think you mentioned online therapy with some of your clients)? Did you and your boyfriend discuss finances in case you move there?

6. Do you think it is possible for you to never talk to your boyfriend about your past relationships, never, ever?

7. What will you do if in Switzerland, living with him, and you feel bored with him, and not attracted to him, how will you deal with it when that happens?

anita