Dear that-girl-next-door:

You are welcome. I see that you do know something about your sister’s motivations, one being her motivation to not be alone, another to not lead to her husband’s suicide, something he threatened to do. I was wrong in my suggestion that you don’t know what motivates her (“Reads to me that you don’t know what motivates your sister”), it was an all-or-nothing statement, suggesting you don’t know of any of her motivations. An all-or-nothing statement is most often… incorrect.

If I remember correctly, you got married at 19, or had your only son at 19, from your previous thread, the same age as your sister getting into her long term relationship, at 19. I am sure there are “multiple layers to this story”. I like multiple layers to stories, peeling them off one by one, figuring things out.

anita