Dear Claire:

You brought up a couple of things:

1. His wife cheated on him and “therefore pushed away anything that means he may end up hurt again”. If that is the reason he broke up with you, it means that he wasn’t afraid in the beginning of the relationship when he took the lead and pushed it forward. But he got afraid later..? I would think that a man hurt that a wife cheated on him is likely to be cautious and not rush a relationship forward like he did with you.

2. You wrote that he is “very head strong.. does what he wants to do.. once he gets something in his head he goes with it”, and then you wrote: “I just have to wait and see what he thinks after he has reflected on our relationship“-

-but if he gets something in his head and goes with it, and that something in his head was to break up with you, and he indeed went with it and broke up with you, he is not likely to reflect on the relationship and rethink his decision to break up, don’t you think?

anita