Hi Diletta,

You might like to explain to your husband that having children is no guarantee that you will be looked after in your old age.  Your husband has a child – does he not count in your husband’s calculation of ‘there’s no-one to look after us’.  What about his son??

Worrying is a bad habit.  No-one can predict the future so why worry about what may or may not happen.  It’s a waste of time and energy.  You are 50 and 60 respectively, this is young enough for you both to spend on enjoying quality time together, going out and having fun.  If your husband doesn’t want to travel with you, you could always go on your own –  take your paints and capture the landscape.  There is probably an art group in your area that you could join that runs this kind of excursion.

No amount of planning can deal with every eventuality.  If it makes your husband feel better, let him put his proposals in place and then you can move on to stress free living.

Painting is a great way to express your emotions in a harmless way.  For example, if you painted your husband’s angst, what would it look like?

I hope you will be able to find the serenity you are looking for.

Peggy