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February 14, 2021 at 5:36 am #374666
Chinese New Year happens one day per year. There are 364 other days in the year. You shouldn’t think of your small family gathering as a problem. Any girl you meet will have time to get to know you properly before being invited along to your celebration, and perhaps she will have already met your parents. It’s not a good idea to compare your family with other families. You don’t know what happens behind closed doors with those other families. One day your dad might make it up with his siblings, then it becomes a large family gathering. Things change all the time. If you need to explain your small gatherings to your future girlfriend, just be matter of fact about it. This is not your fault.
Please stop worrying about this. Just enjoy your youth and enjoy being with all the girls you are going to meet. Mostly, things just fall into place.
Love and Light
PeggyFebruary 12, 2021 at 3:49 am #374521
The fact that you felt and still feel that this behaviour was out of order tells you what you need to know. In my opinion, the best way forward is to cut these people out of your life and move on to people that can show you more respect.
PeggyFebruary 12, 2021 at 3:38 am #374520
You are a survivor. You have come through so much. Your post is a message to the Universe that you need some help. It’s OK to ask the Universe to help you. Call upon your guardian angel. Ask for help in releasing your negative feelings (guilt, regrets). As well as sending love out to the Universe, send some back to yourself. Love yourself exactly as you are today. Love yourself for just ‘being’.
Love and Light
PeggyFebruary 9, 2021 at 3:56 am #374367
By necessity our world revolves around money. We exchange our ‘work’ and our ‘energy’ for an agreed sum of money which we then use to buy ourselves a comfortable life – food, shelter, warmth, clothing and so on. Your working life has a lot of positives but still leaves you with a void and you feel that something is missing, that you are capable of more. There are so many ways in which you could make a difference, all valid, so many worthwhile causes but which ones appeal to you. It all needs narrowing down. Children? Adults? Homeless? Mental health issues? Physical challenges? Racial issues? Prison population? What qualities can you bring? Music skills / art skills/ counselling skills/teaching skills/nursing skills/communication skills. Perhaps you can spare a few hours a week as a volunteer? Do any of these suggestions resonate with you? There is often paid work available within charitable organisations.
I hope you find your heart’s desire soon.
PeggyFebruary 9, 2021 at 3:10 am #374366
I hope you are keeping safe and well.
I have read your posts and it seems to me that you need to change your mindset. There is not one second of your life that has been wasted. That’s just how you are choosing to see it. Life is a journey of learning. You have been through those experiences for a reason. Some of the things you have described are nothing more than coping mechanisms. They may have kept you alive. Give them one almighty thank you. Show gratitude for this day. You have arrived. You have this day to live, breathe, think, exist, plan, create, feel. Make today the day you give up worrying. Make today the day you forgive yourself for all your ‘perceived’ mistakes. Make today the day you exchange anger for courage. These are goals to accomplish. Begin today.
The good news is you are alive, you have today and you have choices. You have the rest of your life to live and the choices you make today are what creates tomorrow and all other tomorrows. Ease up on yourself. Fill that empty space with love. Fun happens when we do what we love doing. Find your passion. These are goals to accomplish. Begin today.
Love and light to you Felix.
PeggyFebruary 1, 2021 at 12:52 pm #373898
I hope you are not feeling too lonely out there. Most of us just get on with our lives, as humdrum as they frequently are, and don’t think too much about the finer workings of our existence. Having been a healer for 25 years, I am well aware of the subtle energies that exist. I’ve always been interested in the mind/body connection and how our thoughts influence the state of our health and sometimes a patient will come out with the very sentence that tells me why they have become ill and why it has chosen a certain part of the body to manifest in. The brain is the obedient servant and wants to carry out the wishes of it’s host.
Scientists have measured the output from a healer’s hands and is it any wonder our hands get a bit hot sometimes. I have actually seen the ‘light beam’ that is emitted from my hands and although healers are taught to draw from the “white light” which exists outside ourselves, by the time this has travelled through our bodies, it is transmuted into a pinky gold beam. I count myself fortunate in having been shown this.
For the most part, our bodies instinctively know how to exist, behave, survive. We don’t need books to teach us Kundalini or Chakras. Our energy exists with or without such knowledge. Drawing in breath requires our nostrils, bridge of the nose, throat which are all depicted in shades of blue/violet, colours associated with those higher chakras, the rising part of the breath. The outbreath, the relaxation of the diaphragm and the belly, depicted yellow/orange, the falling part of the breath. Isn’t this what you are ‘seeing’ and describing.
I am quite willing to accept thoughtforms from other dimensions and even ourselves existing in different dimensions.
Thank you for sharing your very interesting observations.
PeggyFebruary 1, 2021 at 11:36 am #373892
I stand by what I said. Love is an emotion, not the only emotion. I don’t know what Peter is trying to say here. You can see the moon without pointing to it. Love can be experienced in different ways and the experience of love may be different for every last one of us. There is nothing second hand about it. It is ours and ours alone. It cannot be analyzed. Love is our life lesson.
I may think (logic) very carefully about the words I write in my posts, but the act of responding to someone who is undergoing difficulties, is one of Love. It is motivated by love. Love itself is an unseen force. The fruits of love are visible to anyone who cares to look.
Love and light to you all.
PeggyFebruary 1, 2021 at 11:12 am #373890
My heartfelt condolences for the loss of your child and your mother. My daughter has a daughter with cerebral palsy so I have more than a little passing sympathy for you. I see how much it takes to care for a child with such disabilities and I am there for them both whenever they need me. As you say, such children have a limited life span and it is heartbreaking to see their distress. We just have to do the best we can for them while they are here and give them all the love we can. I’m sure you did your very best. You now have a healthy child to care for and provide for and again, your instinct is telling you to get well again by releasing the feelings of grief, anxiety and depression you are experiencing and giving yourself hope for a more positive, fulfilling future.
Deep breathing exercises are one of the best things you can do to relieve anxiety and perhaps you could see if there are any online yoga instructions for mother and child. Positive affirmations are simple to do and can be incorporated whilst you are at work, for instance: “I am earning an honest living”, “I am taking good care of myself”, “I am strong”, “I believe in myself”.
May you be blessed with Love and light
PeggyFebruary 1, 2021 at 10:30 am #373887
I have a feeling you will be fine. You are most welcome.
PeggyJanuary 30, 2021 at 8:36 am #373761
Liking people, male or female, does not make you gay. From what you have shared, I doubt very much that you are gay. Meditation teaches you to let your thoughts come and go without attaching to them. If such thoughts come into your head, don’t pay any attention to them, just let them go. Alternatively, use the word ‘STOP’. As soon as you notice these destructive thoughts, say to yourself ‘STOP’. Replace them with more positive, nurturing thoughts. Write a list for yourself of perhaps ten positive statements about yourself that you can use whenever you need to. Become aware of your good qualities and focus on them.
I hope it works out for you Tristan.
PeggyJanuary 30, 2021 at 8:14 am #373760
What an interesting topic. I’ve never actually experienced this myself but my advice to everyone would be to go with your heart. Love is an emotion and doesn’t follow logic. If such thoughts come into your head, stop and ask yourself how your heart feels about it then you will have your answer.
PeggyJanuary 30, 2021 at 7:34 am #373758
Your boyfriend wants everything his own way. He is married to another woman and the only way he can ‘fix’ that is to get divorced. You are already thinking that your future will be full of pain ‘all the time’. It doesn’t matter how his wife feels about things. YOU have to take care of YOU. You don’t need this man to find you a husband. YOU can go back to your parents and tell them it didn’t work out or YOU can begin building your own life with someone more worthy of you. You deserve so much better than half baked promises that won’t amount to anything. Come on, girl. There’s a whole wide world out there.
PeggyOctober 9, 2020 at 6:02 am #367717
You cannot change what has happened. You have posted this particular picture and now you feel embarrassed. The only thing you can do is resolve to be more selective in future, that is, learn from this experience. Forgive yourself, let it go and move on. That’s the mature way.
PeggyOctober 4, 2020 at 12:07 pm #367531
My first thoughts are that your fiance should have shared with you that he was meeting up with this girl. Of course, you are allowed to have friends of both sexes but not if one of them is a ‘secret’. His behaviour resulted in you leaving your joint home and moving back in with your parents. Now you are wondering if you are somehow to blame and you desire to move back in with him.
My advice would be to stay with your parents and begin dating your fiance again, if he still wants you. Talk to your parents in an adult manner. Explain that you are willing to give him another chance but aren’t ready to commit to him fully yet. Ask them for their co-operation. If they aren’t willing to give you any space, then your other option is to move out.
When you are financially independent you can live your life exactly as you want to. That’s a choice you make and it’s one you have to take full responsibility for. Can you handle that?
PeggyOctober 3, 2020 at 9:47 am #367503
You are not marrying this man. Thank God you have been saved from that fate. You are now free to move on to someone who can love you and commit to you and whose family will also love and approve of you. You have done nothing wrong. You don’t need to feel ashamed of yourself.
What is loving yourself enough? Loving yourself enough is loving yourself completely and utterly, accepting yourself exactly as you are. You are a miracle of nature, you contain God’s divine spark, your DNA is unique which means you are unique. Be proud of who you are. There is no one else like you. Get into the habit of sending yourself love every day of your life. Bring to mind someone that you have loved in your life, even if it’s a pet or a toy, relive those joyous feelings and then allow them to flood your body, to fill you up completely, giving as much love to yourself as you have given out. You are worth it.
Rest assured nearly everyone gets ‘abandoned’ by someone in their lives. We all have break-ups. It’s part of learning about adult relationships, what works for us and what doesn’t. It’s normal and natural. As an adult, you can choose what to believe. Believe that you can attract a genuine, loving, sincere human being into your life and it will happen.
You may need to work on your self esteem which is much easier than it sounds. Write a list of your positive attributes, adding to it daily and read them out in a private space until you have completely absorbed them. This takes about three weeks. Read them over as often as you like until you are totally and utterly integrated with your special, unique qualities. Even if you feel ‘stupid’ and your thoughts throw up resistance, keep going. It’ll be worth it.
Begin shining your light and know that you are worth loving.
My very best wishes to you.