VLC90, is there a chance you’re afraid of commitment? Not relationship commitment because you seem to be okay with having boyfriends, but making a life-long commitment and taking big steps in that direction? It seems like your fears keep coming up each time that step comes closer. Do you have role models in your past that maybe were bad examples, like marriages that broke up that hurt you in some big way or maybe do you have fears of settling into a lifelong commitment only to be hurt or find that you’ve made the wrong choice and will be stuck with this person?

What was it that felt “off” about your ex? Was it JUST a feeling of something being “off” and you didn’t know what it was but you had an otherwise good relationship or were you just incompatible in some way?