I’ll respond here to all of you, as your themes are the same. I appreciate your points and have thought about them for some time. You are correct about the impact on the children, this is clear. I just wanted to clarify that in all other relationships that she has in regards to all other people, my wife has been kind, friendly, and is trusted.

I reached out for help in order to weigh up what others felt, and I would have also replied in a similar way if it was someone else’s situation.

In relation to getting out and going for full custody, or kicking my wife out of the house, I will talk to my lawyer about this, but it is also handled by a different office, the Jugendamt.

All your points are valid, but I’m more looking for advice on how to deal with the depression of the whole situation, if you have any?