Dear S:

One step at a time: first call his mother and ask to talk to her in person. See how that goes. Once it is done, think of the next step. The next step may involve not doing anything but to accept what-is.

“the reality would hit me soon”- for reality to not hit you quick and hard, keep yourself as calm as possible, take one step at a time, and post here anytime. When I am at the computer and notice you posted, I will reply to you every time.

anita