Dear S:

I re-read your posts on page 1. You wrote there: “his father lives away from them because of his job and he’s the one taking care of his mother. He’s been taking care of her since forever. This is also the reason they didn’t want him to leave”- maybe he was given the role of a surrogate husband to his mother.

If he is a surrogate husband to his mother, to make up for the absent father, a role that maybe the absent father supports because.. someone has to take care of her, and a role supported by his sister.. because that way she doesn’t have to take care of her, then was there ever a future for you and him as the primary couple, having a life of your own, I wonder.

You wrote in your recent post (I like your sense of humor!): “apparently everybody around me is getting married to ‘love of their life'”- what if (and it is an unpleasant thought even for me, not having been his girlfriend myself), what if the love of his life is and will be his mother, and the reason he is in the U.S is to be better able to provide for her in the future.. am I being carried away from reality here, do you think?

anita