Dear Austin:

It was not possible for you to end a romantic relationship with her and start a friendship relationship with her. Nor was it possible for her. It is very difficult if not impossible for most people to make that shift from a lover to a friend.

“We decided to remain as friends”- it was easy to make this decision, to say the words, such as: let’s remain as friends, takes a few seconds. Very difficult if not impossible to follow through this decision.

First, you broke up with her. The “friendship” that followed on her end was a long distance romantic relationship with you, which you accommodated. Then she became cold, angry and finally she broke up with you (“She then blocked me on everything”).

“Was this  completely my fault?”- I don’t know. Depends on the nature of the relationship before you broke up with her and whether you leaving the country was the only reason you broke up with her (but continued the relationship nonetheless).

“Is there any way to fix this?”- fix the romantic relationship, you mean, as in having a long distance romantic relationship with her?

anita