Hi Missyrap,

It sounds to me as if you don’t really have any boundaries around seeing each other and perhaps you should establish some.  It all sounds a bit loose and vague.  It might be good to have, say, evening meals together a couple of times a week and some time together over the weekend when he isn’t working.  You need to deal with your insecurities as coming over as ‘needy’ is not appealing in the long term.  Your boyfriend probably has his own issues which he needs to deal with separately.

I would be a little worried if you haven’t told each other how you feel when, suddenly, you might be buying a house together.  I think your relationship needs to be on a much firmer footing before you proceed with this.

The mixed messages from your boyfriend are enough to confuse anyone.  He wants to spend time alone at his place but you can go over if you want to or, if he changes his mind, he will come over to you.  Please!  It’s one or the other not both.

I hope you can work this out.

Peggy