Hi Vesper,

What is the point of regretting all the things you might have done but didn’t?  There is not one thing that you can change.  Your daughter was ready to step out into the adult world with a man who she felt supported her and with whom she has a loving bond.  I’m sure that if she had told you of her plans, you would have put up some form of resistance.  Perhaps she didn’t need that from you at that time.  I don’t see it as her running away, I see it as her running towards a new life and so far it seems to have worked out for her.

Have you ever heard the saying that everything must be learned, nothing can be taught.  That being said, we are all teachers and we are all pupils.  Your daughter is just as capable of teaching you what you need to learn as you are of teaching her.

I’m glad that the way is open for you to have loving communications with your daughter.  It sounds as if you will be just fine now.

Peggy