Dear cali sister:

Before I do- after I submitted to you my recent post I realized that I didn’t respond to the part where you  expressed empathy for me for not having support for my NC (2013). Then I thought: maybe cali sister will feel ignored for it, and I felt somewhat guilty for neglecting to acknowledge and thank you for your expressed empathy. My point in bringing this up is what we talked about most recently, about your friends not checking in with you a day after your NC- people are limited to what they pay attention to at any one time. In this example, I noticed your expressed empathy, was going to thank you for it, but I focused on another point, got distracted and forgot my plan.

So in any one post I might forget to attend to all that you express, same as anyone, I suppose. But remember this: just like me not acknowledging your empathy did not mean that I didn’t notice it, that I didn’t appreciate it (or worse: that I didn’t like it or was angry at you), it doesn’t mean that your friends didn’t care etc. Maybe they were uncomfortable with the topic (I believe it is very likely) but in addition to  it, maybe they.. forgot, got distracted, just like I did, with best intentions!

Next post, I will comment on the quotes.

anita