Dear Jess:

It all  happened too fast. The two of you had sex too fast, second night of meeting him. He then told you that he talked to his family about you.. too fast. And you got jealous of interactions he had with other girls… too fast. It was too early for you to .. sort of take possession of his social media interactions with other women.

When the two of you met on vacation- he made no promises to you, no deal  was struck. When he left to the States, still, no  promises, no commitment, nothing but an exchange of a mutual good time.

In other words, you rushed into jealously when there was no relationship yet established, no definition of any kind about what a relationship between the two  of you can be or should  be.

Too soon, too fast to be “something serious”- it could be but not automatically and not while creating difficulties that are unnecessary and make a relationship less likely.

I suggest that you slow down, communicate with him but remove the sexual element. Communicate with him as a new friend and a potential future boyfriend. Get to know him as a friend and let him get to know you as the person that you are.

You wrote in your original post that you had “good sexual chemistry but he didn’t really get to know me or my ideas, thoughts, dreams, or any talk… I kinda feel disappointed on myself for not showing who I really am”-

– see, the “good sexual chemistry” did not show him who you really are. So show him now who you really are by typing away your words, your “ideas, thoughts, dreams”.

anita