Dear cali sister:

“Look when you can. I was just mentioning it”- you were worried that I felt pressured, to see your photo, didn’t you? Similar to your reactions to your sister, isn’t it, fearing that she will feel pressured to do one more thing for you and get angry at you.

Don’t worry, cali sister, this is not the same dynamic with me. No  worries. I mentioned the email visibility for a practical reason- now and in the future, when I am on tb, and you send me an email, I may not respond to it for hours (but will respond on the same day). Therefore, if you send me an email that you do want me to read  soon- let me know on tb that you sent it and that it is important to you that I read it soon- and I will.

Regarding the crush- I was thinking a bit about it, how I can.. mentor you perhaps through a relationship, or help mentor you so that it proceeds nicely. There will be challenges, no  doubt.

anita