Dear Felix:

Having read your previous threads, this girl, 16 years old, has been very consistent in her position that she doesn’t want a boyfriend, only friends. She never changed her mind on the matter. And good for her, as young as she is, to not get into a romantic relationship with any boy or man.

I recommend that you explain to her that you respect her choice, that you believe her choice is right for her, and that you are unable to be a friend to her because you “can’t stop thinking of her” in a romantic way! Tell her the truth, tell her it is not her fault that you think about her this way, and for so long.

Tell her it is best the two of you have no contact whatsoever, so that maybe you will stop thinking about her romantically and so much. Then establish no- contact, including in all forms of social media.

Post here anytime, to express yourself- if it makes you feel better, as I hope it does.

anita