Okay, I understand, all the more reason why she may want to find someone else, a man who finds her desirable just the way she is because, face it, as she ages those physical characteristics will likely not vanish into midair one day.

And yes, you’re right, perhaps the letter isn’t a good idea after all and wouldn’t be respecting her decision.

So a good therapist can help you overcome hang ups you may have, and maybe you do have some, but even if you were totally hang-up free, this woman may not be the right one for you. It’s asking a lot of a therapist to help you to desire a physical characteristic that you find undesirable in a woman whose got some serious issues that would concern anyone, not just you, and whom you’ve known for mere months. In other words, if you were married for years and suddenly had problems in the bedroom with your wife and mother of your kids, maybe a therapist can help with that, but at this stage in a relationship most couples can’t keep their hands off each other, and compound that with your other valid concerns, I just don’t know.

What I’m getting at is I don’t see you as being shallow for having high standards when searching for a wife and the future mother of your kids. Have high standards!

B