Dear bad_pup:

You are welcome. I think that the only reasonable thing for you to do it to give up on her. Her behavior and her parents’ pressure on her are very discouraging to the prospect of your relationship with her, it doesn’t look good. She has been very conflicted for a while, and looks like she is moving toward ending the relationship.

I mentioned financial independence earlier. I figure that if she is financially dependent on her parents, and her parents are pressuring her to end her same sex relationship with you, then she is likely to do just that, end the relationship with you. If she was financially independent or could depend on you, then there would be more of a chance that she will resist her parents’ pressure and make a life with you.

anita