Hello Anita

Nice seeing you here.

I didn’t mean his job as a red flag and I dont judge him for this. His redflags are more related to way he treats her, he’s controlling regarding her clothes, her social media posts and her friendships. He also has shown a little aggressive behavior in the way he speaks to her (belittling words etc). Those are the red flags that were similar to my ex that I recognize in him.

About his work my point is that she’ll probably have to handle everything herself, as he doesn’t seem like inclined to pursue a new job (idk what he feels like about it with the child news though). They’re on very different levels in terms of income. She recently got her own place, decorated it and everything with her own money and now he’s living there without contributing anything money wise.

Lastly, I mean he drinks a lot because he goes out on the weekends with his friends and gets drunk by the point of passing out.

Just to clarify the points you raised but I guess there isn’t much I can do other than what you said. Its just being difficult for me to cheer her and share her happiness. I was considering distance myself but I’m not sure its the right thing to do as a friend.