Dear Jasmine:

My comment is in regard to what you wrote here: “sure we fought sometimes but I didn’t think it was anything out of the ordinary”-

– fighting should be out of the ordinary. Fighting is not a necessary part of a relationship and it has no part at all in a relationship that is supposed to be loving. Conflicts can be discussed in a fair, respectful way. Aggression hurts people and relationships. It has no part in a supposedly loving relationship, be it between romantic partners, between friends and between parents and children.

anita