Dear PikeMan:

As to what you did wrong in the marriage: the fact that you didn’t help with cleaning the house, cooking, washing laundry etc., if it is true what you shared earlier, that you work morning till evening, traveling for work as well, and if she is a stay at home mom, it is only fair that there will be a division of labor, that you will not work all day and then come home, clean, cook, feed the kids, etc.

The fact that you “thought about other women”, if you didn’t try to think about other women, and it just happened that you did, well, it is not something you are guilty of. Flirting- depending what you mean by it, if you smiled at women, just so happened to smile, that is one thing. If you carried on flirtatious conversations, asking women out, that is another thing. Imagining sex with other women while being with your wife- again, if it just happened that you did, I suppose it can happen to anyone. But if you told her about it, that would be cruel. Generally, I don’t think there is a married man in this world who does not think about other women, or desires other women from time to time.

“I never put my wife first, for anything”- that is a strong statement. I don’t know what you mean by it, but generally it reads very wrong, to not put your wife first, “for anything”!

What do you mean by that???

anita