Dear PikeMan:

I don’t think you should give her an ultimatum or talk to her parents.

In your original post you presented yourself as a “faithful, hardworking, honest, loyal man who loves his wife very much”. Later you revealed yourself as less of all of these things, you referred to yourself as a selfish, arrogant man who has never put his wife first in anything (“I never put my wife first, for anything”).

In light of this I think that you should no longer act selfishly, arrogantly and aggressively toward your wife, giving her ultimatums, threatening her and pressuring her by talking to her parents. Instead, be kind to her. Put her first in something, for the first time in your marriage to her.

anita