Dear Lola:

You are welcome. I don’t think it matters much how you break up with him, as long as you make it safe for you, and as easy as possible. An email will be fine, and after the email you can block him if you want, whatever is easier for you. I don’t think you need to explain much to him, make it short and sincere.

You wrote “we’ve been through so much”, reads like it, yes, but the two of you didn’t come out of all that “so much” as two better and improved individuals. You came out of it sick.

This is why you need to heal individually, leaving him behind in 2019.

anita