Dear noname:

I didn’t say that your thoughts and feelings about our lovability will drastically change once you have no contact with your parents, I said NC will “open the way for you to eventually be loved and feel lovable”, eventually, not immediate and not drastically.

But no contact will do nothing for you whatsoever if you don’t desire it, if it is of no great value to you, in your own mind and heart.

Underneath the boy in you who doesn’t expect love from his mother anymore, who understand the why-s and doesn’t want or need to talk about it anymore, this depressed boy who is very repressed, there is a younger boy who craves his mother as any real life young boy craves his mother, very intensely, as always. It is that younger boy who needs you to remove him from his home of  origin, to take him out of that place of no love.

Look at the title of your thread: “Being better at accepting depression”- I don’t think that you can being better at accepting depression, I don’t think anyone can get good at it. No one can be okay being depressed.

Get in touch with that younger boy in you, the one who craves his mother still. He is underneath the depression.

anita