Dear ninibee:

You are welcome. “well, now what?”

The answers I am suggesting to you:

1. Start quality therapy with an empathetic, motherly type psychotherapist who is professional, competent, trustworthy and hard working. (Not so easy to find). She can be your fantasy mother for a while, before you no longer need a fantasy mother.

2. In the context of your thread, if you tell me what you need from a fantasy-mother-type here, and if it suits me, maybe I can be that person for you here.  I already promised you that “I will make sure that from this point on, I will answer you calmly and patiently every single time”. So I will keep this promise for sure.

anita