Valora,

thank you for your insight, I really appreciate it. I, too, consider my children’s feelings and I would never force his children to interact with me if they don’t want to but when after 3.5 years you are not even able to stay under the same roof    the questions start coming: what needs to happen to move this relationship forward so that we actually can be partners….children’s mother doesn’t love them unconditionally, she continuously threatens to leave them if they engage in any positive way in dad’s relationship so they leave in constant fear of mother’s rejection…bf is a fantastic dad so I fully understand that he doesn’t want to cause the children any distress. The older child now starts behaving like mum, giving dad silent treatment at any mention of our relationship. I feel there’s nothing I can do other than wait for a change in my bf’s management of this situation but my worry is that there’s no clear timeline on the horizon….unless there’s a solution I don’t see? (Apart from leaving)