Dear Javaira:

Definitely you shouldn’t worry about replying to members’ threads. Yes, I remember that you shared before how much those calls to your father stress you out. What a shame that this job was dropped on you; that your mother is unable or unwilling to do this task. I can see how difficult of a task it is- this is why no one wants to do it, not your mother and not your siblings.

I am wondering (and I don’t remember if we discussed this, and it may be impractical and unrealistic), that maybe you can have a friendly talk with your father and arrange to move to live with him or with someone on his side of his family, an uncle or aunt or grandparent, so that you will not have to make these financial calls anymore, no longer having this very unpleasant responsibility to arrange for the finances of your mother’s and siblings’. Is there such a possibility?

anita