Jennifer,
I must appologize for replying so late. It is enexcusable, but we go through things and just fall into a sort of ‘funk’ and find it hard to get out. I just don’t think I was ready to talk about much, though I started this forum discussion, and sor that I must appologize.

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mother and husband so close together. I really and truly can not imagine that. Your words are very well spoken and a tremendous comfort to me. It seems very benificial to go through a “Completing my Pain” exercize. I still am confused as to what I am feeling or if I’m “doing it right”. It is helpful to me that you clarified that everyone owns their own grief and experiences it in their own way. That nothing is wrong with how I am doing it.

I have not really wanted to face the hard issues such as memories with my mom or any situations left undone, but I am slowly accepting that I should. It’s less painful to avoid feeling those feelings and pushing them away when they arise.

I have been getting better about it, especially since I write about it and share it so openly. That is my therapy, I guess. It’s easier to write it out than to talk it out.

I appreciate your reply here, it was very comforting to me.

Blessings,
Nanette