Dear Mai:

“If I was your friend and I came to you  with this story, what advice could you give me? Should I keep talking to him, meet him once this crisis is over and see where we’re at?”-

I would send him this message: You ended our relationship this past January. I feel that you freaked out by something and rushed into a decision because you tend to think on the spot and make rash decisions. I am pretty sure the army did not dictate to you who you can or can’t date, that there are no rules against dating foreigners. I suspect you had too much on your plate, and when you were told that issues may arise due to your relationship with me, you took the fastest way out, but I don’t understand why you didn’t even try to discuss it with me.

I am not interested in any communication with you before you explain to me what led you to end our relationship. If you choose to not explain it to me, I will accept it, and wish you well. But without an explanation,  I will no longer communicate with you because you ending our three years relationship is an event I can’t ignore: I can’t pretend that our relationship never happened, nor can I ignore the fact that you chose to end it.

I know that we are in the midst of a pandemic and I am not suggesting that you bother yourself with anything other than what’s in front of you. Be as safe as you can be, take good care of yourself, and you are welcome to contact me if and when you want to explain to me what happened.

-the end.

What do you think?

anita