Dear Mai:

You are welcome. When I posted to you earlier, it didn’t cross my mind that I was suggesting an ultimatum, but I suppose it is an ultimatum, as in: contact me if and when you are willing to explain to me why you broke up with me, and not before. This would have suited me because if I was in your place (based on the little information I have), I would be too upset and impatient to keep communicating with him while he never bothered to explain to me why he broke up with me. But you may very well be a more patient, more forgiving person than I am. I hope you post again, because I would like to learn how you do that, how you manage to be so positive, patient and even-keeled!

anita