Hi Marilyn,

Thank you so much for your kind words and your understanding. I know that his behavior is a reflection on him and not on me, but it hurts when i remember the things he would say and i would try to understand why he thinks that the way he treated was deserved.

Two days after that incident i sent him an email stating how what he did was wrong and how men should never lay a hand on women. I even sent him a list of signs of an abusive relationship i looked up a few day before that happened because i knew something was not right with us. I do regret doing that because thinking about it now is not like he was going to agree in saying “yeah i have a problem”, but his reply to it is the one that’s kinda driving me crazy. He said that normal women dont go online and do such kind of research and that i should have asked him why does he abuse me instead of going online to find an answer. He also mentioned i should have gone to see a psychiatrist and he would have joined me appreciately…but with all honesty..i think if i would have brought the subject he would have never joined me for a counseling session.

It makes me angry how he thinks that me reading that list was the thing that ended the relationship because according to him now he understands why my behavior changed against him.

I think i need to point out that he was originally from India and when i met him he had only been here in the states for 2 years. Sometimes i do feel i was the only one he treated like that because he mentioned his past 3 girlfriends ended because his parents didnt agreed to it or because their religion was different (they were all from India as well) and how he still keeps in contact with them and they all still want to be with him, which says that he’s a good person and that im the one with the problem and not him (thats what he replied to me)

Thats why im always asking myself that i might have been the only one he treated like that…im just so confused… :s