Hi Anita and Valora,

Thank you for the responses. Valora, most of what you have said is exactly what he said to me, thank you for the explanation as I am still learning about depression. This pressure to be a good boyfriend to me, he was putting on himself because I made myself drop any expectations of him when he told me he was depressed. The reason we argued was not that I complained of lack of affection as he told me he was feeling numb, it was small things I would say that would trigger him and remind him that he is not where he used to be – which I most definitely did not do intentionally. We argued over the misinterpreted tone of voice in text and when I would ask him to facetime as we always did, if he wasn’t able he would take it out on me.

Thank you for giving me a bit of hope, yesterday I wrote that post in a complete state. When he told me that he doesn’t have the emotional capacity for a relationship he still told me that he never wanted this but he needs to do this now for his anxiety and that he still adores me. Thankfully he is taking all the steps to heal as he is seeing a psychologist. We’ve decided to give each other some space to heal and he said to me we’ll talk when he’s ready, and the same goes for me.

Thank you for the reassurance and help, I really appreciate it as I have been beating myself up about it.