Dear KC:

You are welcome. I am not around your age but I used to be (it feels like only yesterday..). As far as what your friend told you, his “crude and disrespectful” words, if a friendship is to resume, then yes, he will have to sincerely apologize to you.

“how do I forget what he said”- I don’t think you can forget. Maybe what he said will not bother you much or at all in the future, but you’ll probably remember it.

“because this lockdown has everyone so stressed and crazy”- as you ponder what to do with this friend (currently on inactive friendship status), remember that you are also under stress and you need to take care of yourself first. So, if his craziness makes you crazy- better give up on activating the friendship, better accept the possibility that this friendship is one of the many casualties of this pandemic.

I am guessing that he is in no shape to activate a healthy friendship, so all you can do is send him that card, some form of goodwill expressed in it, and let it go best you can. If he contacts you after you send the card, take it from there. Do post here anytime and I’ll be glad to reply to you every time you do post.

anita