Thank you Anita for your reply. I appreciate your support. Thank you for reminding me of the separation/individuation stage.

I am actively working on building my own barn for our horses so that should be finished within the next month.

I agree: the silence is an opportunity of some kind for myself.

I guess that is my biggest question at this time is when the time comes that we come into contact with each other, what do I say? I agree with extending the silence part but I know she will ask for more.

The personal need I have to ‘call her out’ on things is slowly fading. What I WANT to say are things like: “Obviously you don’t love me so let’s just keep this going, it seems like that is what you want”, or /”What did you think would happen by pretending I didn’t exist?”

• This reply was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by NeW.