Dear Jen

Perhaps I can be that “Someone sane” and that “extra crutch” you need to  help you do what is right for you. (Who am I to be those things for you? You can read a number of my responses to a few of the hundreds of members I replied to on these forums, and figure out for yourself if I reads like someone sane).

“it’s how he talks to me and has locked me in his house.. The things he says verbally I find disgusting… He does have good traits too and this is the problem… I feel guilty splitting when things seem good even though they are not good for me at all”- not necessarily a problem. It is only in cartoons and some movies where a bad character is portrayed as bad at all times and in all ways. In real life, bad people guilty of the cruelest acts, are sometimes kind to some people, including to their own victims. For example: a parent beats her child mercilessly but also feeds her, and sometimes prepares her child’s favorite food.

What do you think of the point I just made?

anita