Dear Holly:

I managed to read your recent post. You asked in your original post: “Should I be patient with him?”. My answer: yes, he reads like a good man from all that you shared, an exceptionally honest and responsible man.

“It’s true he does ACT like he loves me which is why I find it confusing why it can be so hard for him to say it”- just as he accommodated you in the past, being verbally affectionate with you, what about you accommodating him by letting him know that you no longer expect him to say the words?

For whatever reason, it is difficult for him to say I love you. It makes him very uncomfortable to try and say these words.  So give him the gift of not expecting him to say it anymore. Relieve him from this unnecessary pressure.

I don’t know if I answered you adequately, please let me know.

anita