Whether its actually love, just a crush, or may be just the bond of friendship, we all experience unrequited feelings in the pretty much the same way and it all stems from one thing, attachment.

You develop a strong attachment towards another person, that person doesn’t reciprocate the same level of attachment, and so you feel anxious, dissatisfied, frustrated, fearful, and jealous.

In your short, you desire something, you don’t get it, you suffer. All unfulfilled desires and attachments cause suffering. It can be simple.

Here some questions you might want to ask:

What void are you trying to fill with this person that you yourself are not able to fill alone and why?

What feelings does this person elicit in you that have resulted in this attachment? Why are you not able to elicit these feelings from yourself?

Why do you approach this relationship like you’re walking on eggshells? Is it because you know that if you put strain on it and test its strength, you may find the bond weak? Would you not want to know if it can survive the strain and simply let it continue oblivious to the reality of situation?

“If in a relationship there is no tension [meaning no knowledge of self and others], it ceases to be a relationship and merely becomes a comfortable sleep state, or opiate – which most people want and prefer.” – Krishnamurti