Dear Rae:

The Serenity Prayer says (I am not religious but I believe in the following words): “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”.

When you can identify the things that you cannot change, then you can “move on with these feelings and let go” because you thoroughly understand that there is nothing you can do. But when you are not clear about what those things are.. you can’t move  on because you still think there is something you can do, but you don’t know what it is.

If you want, we can try to figure out together what things you can change and what things you cannot change. It will take some back and forth communication.

You wrote: “he feels like I cannot change b/c I don’t get it”- any idea what he meant by it?

anita