Dear Rlkki:

You are welcome. Interesting, as I read the first paragraph of your recent post, I thought to myself: what a shame for him, all he had to do was make the effort to call you a few hours earlier (that’s not a lot to ask for), and your last words were “What a shame”.

You mentioned “irritation” which is a mild form of anger, but even a  mild form of anger at a person is enough to kill the desire for that person (“I just find him less attractive”), at least for a while- you may forget the anger when lonely or otherwise distracted, but unless he changes and respects you, your understandable anger is likely to pop up again and again.

The title of your thread is “Stand Your Ground or Chill Out?”- always, whenever possible stand your ground. Plus, chilling out is about feeling cool, and anger is a hot-and-uncomfortable feeling.

anita