Dear Michelle:

We are primarily emotional beings. Our greatest motivation is to move away from pain and move toward pleasure. Most people will drop all reasonable thinking for a moment of pleasure. Specifically here, you may drop all our excellent, intelligent communication for any sign that he loves you. He can say three words: I love you, and that is all it will take to undo all that we have discussed. Because the best thinking in the world does not compare to a good feeling that we desire to experience.

But please, stick to the good thinking. The good feeling will follow, just not now, later, much later, with another man. It will be worth it. Persevere, learn while in pain. You will make it, you can make it.

anita